Intention to change is not change.
Change Is Not Change... Until It Is Change.
Survival has always depended on change.
What we do affects others.
Making a positive difference starts with
people helping people. ?
When we do the right thing...
Thoreau once observed that most people lead
lives of quiet desperation
and go to the grave with the song
still in them.
We've come head on with this
What difference do we make?
"Life's most persistent and urgent question is:
What are we doing for others?"
~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
"Difference Makers" are those who believe
they have a strong drive and conviction
about making a positive difference in the world.
They know they are on this earth to lead, encourage or
inspire positive change. They put considerable energy,
effort, and time into actualizing the difference they pursue.
They live for the course they are effecting.
Think About It...
Information to ponder.
There are some ways that ego can get in the way of
our ability to accomplish those things which could
make a positively good difference.
1.) It is easy to get on an "Ego trip" and believe too much in our self
importance. This can take various forms. It's easy to make others "wrong" if
they don't share our passion. It's a short step from there to believing that any
who do not agree with us, or even worse, actively oppose our ideas are evil".
From these positions, it becomes impossible to bring others into alignment
with our objectives. Force becomes our only methodology and that is a
2.) Another form of ego comes disguised as "playing small" or
This is not so obviously ego until you examine it
more closely. If you believe you have a particular
purpose, pretending you don't have the ability to
accomplish it at least suggests a bit of laziness about gaining needed skills,
developing confidence and doing what it takes to be assured of having the
Isn't there a bit of ego involved if we don't take the needed actions to
ensure success of the mission? Isn't it egotistical not to do what is
required to fulfill the purpose?
3.) Sometimes ego comes disguised as "Lone wolf" mentality. We
believe no one can help us. Only we know how and are able to "Do it
We discount any contributions from others. We refuse and reject help.
We ignore suggestions. We always believe that we are the only ones
who know anything. We discourage input from others.
Our behaviors, communications
and reactions all clearly inform
others that their ideas and opinions
are unwelcome and are rejected.
On top of this, we will frequently
play "Victim" of having to do it all
and play long suffering games
about everything falling on our
shoulders to do. We never once
acknowledge the irony of how we
create this dynamic. We never see
what we are doing and if we do,
we refuse to acknowledge it.
4.) It is easy to get into ego also by allowing self importance to creep
in. This can come about subtly and be outside our awareness. Here are
some of the forms this might take.
We could start to imagine we are more significant than others who
aren't out to make a difference. We could start to discount or minimize
any beliefs, actions or missions of others. We could imagine that only
what we are here to accomplish has importance. We could fail to
support others. We could become self centered in our mission.
5.) Believing we are not important and that our contribution is not
important can also be a kind of ego.
Think of it this way:
contributions from all are
required to make up the whole.
In that context, how can we
justify withholding our
contribution by believing
in our lack of importance? We
make our contribution less
important simply through the
process of performing in a
wimpy and unfulfilling way.
It a form of ego to be given certain gifts but to feel no responsibility
toward developing them.
6.) Another way ego can stop difference makers is to ignore right
timing. Most things have an optimal timing and we usually have a
good sense of what this is. You may find yourself attempting to rush
the timing and find yourself pushing and forcing and feeling
disappointed at lack of results. If this is you, recognize your timing
and revisit that.
On the other end, many of us
will have a sharp awareness of
right timing but fail to act when
we need to - and let the window
of opportunity pass by. This is
extremely unsettling because we
know better. It seems a
conscious choice to be passive when action is required. Typically
"Crises" will arise or "Time wasters" will intervene, but the difference
maker is clearly aware that their time to act is passing them by - and
chooses not to act. Isn't some version of ego involved in that?
Ego can come disguised in many ways.
There are the obvious versions of ego where our self importance
blinds us to the importance of others. There's the ego of "Nobody can
do it as great as I can". There's the ego of believing our contribution is
not important. Ego takes on many disguises to stop difference makers.
Don't let yourself be fooled by ego. Stay aware of timing and don't
play small or "not important".
and never forget...
Ego is the acronym for:
Easing God Out!
The secret to happiness in this world
is to keep God in the forefront of all of our affairs,
to do God's will, to inspire, motivate, educate and inspire one another.
We all have influence.
Why is it that we as people
are afraid to exercise our influence
towards the very things
we care most about?
May we prayerfully
think about the places
we can reach out
and give back
in our communities
and around the world.