This page was designed to reinforce
and teach civility and common courtesy.
We would like to give children the added advantage of
BETTER self-confidence to handle
whatever comes their way and to understand
the importance of the core basics of respect,
dignity, safety, consideration, and honesty...
the principles of basic manners.
Rudeness and a lack of respect and politeness is a serious
human behavioral problem, and a growing problem in
our society. Many say rude and uncivilized behavior is
Far too many people have disrespect for one another,
which could trigger insults, dishonesty, cheating,
fights and a rash of other unfortunate incidents.
Foul language is being used with no regard for the elderly
or our youth. In fact, it is not uncommon for a child or
teen to be contemptuous towards an elder.
We go into the stores... all but to get to a customer service
representative who is consciously or unconsciously rude
and unhelpful to customers.
Some parents are allowing their children to witness their
response to traffic issues. They become angry, aggressive,
and sometimes dangerous drivers. A lot of the anger is
triggered by impatience and/or rudeness encountered by
them or done by them. Let us remember... children learn a
great amount from their parents example.
Disrespect is a growing problem in society and it is
consequently shaping society in detrimental ways.
Without proper manners, our polite society will
soon disappear, and we may see fewer respectful and
civilized human beings.
Civility means seeing and appreciating the humanity of
others and putting the common good above self-interest.
These are the principles that are crucial in shaping
positive interactions in our own lives and in creating a
As adults we should leave this world better than we found
it by nurturing, educating, cultivating, disciplining,
shaping the potential, helping our children to come to
realize the greatness within them.
Our parents and the many generations before them
blessed our generation with wonderful pearls of
wisdom and treasure troves of truth, beauty, and
Their rich experiences and deposits sown have been
invaluable to our generation.
We can raise a generation of civilized children who
can and will become civilized adults by passing on to the
next generation pearls of wisdom truth, beauty, and
pragmatic advice so they may avoid costly mistakes and
have a deeper and BETTER understanding of life and
A person with good manners
shows respect and is polite and caring
Having good manners means thinking about others before
ourselves. Good manners is acting with kindness and
Having good manners is actually following
the Golden Rule of... doing unto others as we
would have others do unto us.
Gracious behavior, the kind that shows consideration and
thoughtfulness towards others, is important. It is also a
breath of fresh air for those who witness it.
BEGINS AT HOME.
As parents we must be conscious of our own behavior.
With conscious intention, we have to live like the kind of
person we want our children to grow up to be.
Teachable moments are ongoing...
we are always training our children.
Our children watch how we react to various situations. As
parents we need to set examples and have good manners.
If we are polite to them and consistent in following proper
manners guidelines, they are much more likely
to do the same.
Many young people today do not know much about
manners because they never learned it at home. Respect
has not been taught or enforced. This leaves children and
teenagers unprepared to function, in the real world, as
productive, kind, and polite citizens.
There are many parents teaching their children manners,
but their efforts are countered by peer groups, television,
and social media influences... to name a few.
These negative environments contribute to
oppositional behaviors among children, teens, and adults.
Many people have strayed away from the way
they were raised, but the seed has been planted in them.
As quiet as it is kept... manners still reflect on a
child's family and what their parents and teachers taught
If children grow up with manners and decency ingrained
in them, they will find it easier to move through life
as the kind of person others find to be pleasant.
People respond positively to those who are nice to them
and who treat them with respect.
Common courtesies are the endless
little gestures we make almost
unconsciously... as we move
through our day.
Manners are polite behaviors that reflect
an attitude of consideration, kindness
and respect for others.
A person with good manners considers others and
recognizes they are not the only ones who matter.
Good manners is a process closely tied to
a child's development.
As parents instruct and become the shining example,
their children will establish a basic understanding of how
they should interact with people and behave
in a variety of situations.
People respond positively
to those who are nice
to them and who treat them
Good manners guides us
in how to do this.
What does it
mean to have
The Golden Rule simply states...
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
The beauty of the Golden Rule is that it's simple yet
profound. Only a powerful yet flexible principle such as
the Golden Rule can serve as a moral steppingstone. It is
the basis for respectful behavior and good manners.
So, in keeping the Golden Rule we behave toward others
in the same ways that we would want others to
act toward us.
Rudeness is rooted in selfishness. Manners are meant to
reduce the friction of human interaction. Discourtesy
reveals a lack of consideration for others. The ill-
mannered person is communicating that
“It’s all about me.”
Love, by contrast, cannot be selfish, for the simple reason
that love is concerned for the other person’s well-being.
Therefore, love is mannerly
and good manners is an act