Basic Manners for Life

We Never Get a Second Chance

To Make A Good First Impression!

 This page was designed to reinforce and teach civility

and common courtesy. We

want to give children the

confidence to handle

whatever comes their way

and to understand the

importance of respect,

consideration and

honesty... the principles

behind etiquette.

Whether it be a job interview, a business meeting, or a social

function... people often reach instant conclusions, positive or

negative, on how they regard others within the first 15 to 30

seconds of meeting them.

Social graces aside, common sense and

pure plain manners

seem to be a thing of the past in far too

many homes, with a direct

correlation to how some children treat

their teachers, other students,

and often, their own parents.

 

Does your child use bad manners at home?

Would you be embarrassed if your child's bad manners

surfaced in public?

We can help our children find practical ways

to use basic manners so they will become automatic

for years to come.

What are good manners?

Good manners are life skills. It is considering the feelings of other

people, and being the kind of person that others will like and respect.

It is civilized behavior. Courtesy, politeness respecting others and

yourself are key.

 The Golden Rule

"Always do to others

 as you would wish them to do to you

if you were in their place."

  To apply the Golden Rule, simply ask yourself

"How would you like to be treated in the same situation?"

Then treat the other person that way.

"Treat others as you would like to be treated,"

this includes all other people.

If we are respectful to others,

then we are more likely to be treated with respect by them.

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Politically correct behavior....?

 

What happened to socially correct

behavior?

 

 Where have all the good manners gone?

 

Many want what they want yesterday

and they don't care who they offend

in order to fulfill their desires.

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How would you feel if someone:

*Never said 'Please' or 'Thank you'?http://frank.itlab.us/forgetting/think.gif

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How would you feel if someone:

*Talked to your friend, but turned their back to you?http://frank.itlab.us/forgetting/think.gif


How would you feel if someone:

*Pushed you out of the way to get the seat you were about to

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How would you feel if someone:

*Drove in the wrong way and took your parking space?http://frank.itlab.us/forgetting/think.gif

How would you feel if someone:
 

*Made fun of you to evoke laughter from others

knowing that your feelings would be hurt?http://frank.itlab.us/forgetting/think.gif

How would you feel if someone:
*Let the door slam in your face as you were about to walk

through it?http://frank.itlab.us/forgetting/think.gif

Some people are guilty of looking back to see if anyone is

there, and still not hold the door for the person behind them... rather,

they let it slam almost in their face.

This is what good manners look like:

StarGood manners is being helpful

and polite to others.
StarGood manners holds the door for others.

StarGood manners does not make jokes

at another's expense.

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StarGood manners cleans up after themselves.
 
How about putting anything you used away-
 
regardless of whether there is someone that
 
is paid to clean up your mess or not.
 

StarGood manners says 'please' and 'thank you'.

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StarGood manners yields and allows another to have the seat,

especially an older person, pregnant woman, or child.

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StarGood manners is respectful

of their property and the property of others.

     Good manners puts rubbish into trash bins.

 

 

 

 StarGood manners yields and allows another

to have the parking space.

StarGood manners yields and allows another

entrance into the traffic lane.

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StarGood manners shares and does not keep the best for themselves.

StarGood manners is being mindful of the tone and volume of their

voice. They realize that talking or laughing too loudly can attract the

wrong kind of attention.

 StarGood manners says good morning, good afternoon, good

evening, good night if they are entering a room or walking past

another.

StarGood manners asks if they can borrow something, They don't just take it.

StarGood manners takes care and returns things they borrowed.

StarGood manners waits their turn before speaking.

StarGood manners holds the door open for the person coming in.

  StarGood manners puts shopping carts away properly.

StarGood manners flushes the toilet in public and private restrooms.  


"It is not what you say which matters,

it is what you do."

  "It is how you look, how you stand,..." and so on. 

Non verbal communication of manners matters.

In communication...

seventy percent of what we communicate is non verbal. The way

we walk, sit and stand all communicate our reason for being there.

People have already made a decision, on some level, as to whether or

not they will listen to us.   

 

 Most people judge others by their actions,

and themselves by their intentions.

Leadership is influence.

Parents have the power to exert

powerful positive influences!

If we are mannerly ourselves, of course, children will do as we do.

We have to decide that bad manners will not be tolerated

at home or outside of the home... period.

We need to help our children figure out and navigate

through a variety of situations and know the respectful

and considerate thing to do... when confronted.

The examples we display in every day life are key.

Our children are watching us.

Being a good role model is key,

because children do emulate adults' behavior.

 Everything rises and falls on leadership. For our children to develop

values that are essential to being

courteous, they need to see those same qualities in the people whom

they respect. We need to raise polite children in these impolite times.

Children come into this world as a blank slate. It is up to the parents

 to inscribe upon the fertile grounds of their children's hearts and

minds... love, self-respect, dignity, humanity, family,

and good manners.

Teaching our children good manners helps to keep them

on the course of graciousness and success. 

  

 It's much easier to teach good manners

while our children are young

than it is to break bad habits when they are old.

  

Train up a child in the way he/she should go,

and when he/she is old he/she

will not depart from it.

  Proverbs 22:6


 We should teach our children to say:

Please, May I,

Thank you, I'm sorry

Excuse me.

 

Teaching our children about

respect is the most

important and enduring job

a parent will ever have.

 

Good manners equals good children.

Bring children up virtuously and they will continue so. 

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Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger,

but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Saying please, thank-you and being considerate,
 
 can make all the difference in the world! 


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These parental mandates

are good rules

for adults to live by too.

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counts! 

 

 

 

 

Social skills are important in all aspects of
 
our children?s life,
 
from the playground to the classroom to the
 
workplace.
 
Social skills help others feel comfortable with
 
us and help us make friends.
 
Relationship-building skills help us resolve
 
conflicts in a healthy way.
 
 We can help our children learn social skills they will use
 
for the rest of their lives.

Want your child to grow into a thoughtful, loving, creative person

who will possess resilience, generosity, curiosity, consideration for

others, respect and perseverance? Then, we need to be teaching our

children manners. It's agreed: manners need to be taught to our

children. Teaching our children manners gives them

"lifelong survival skills." They give children an advantage. By

learning and using manners, children become more confident. They

are also more comfortable when they know how to get along with

others.

Providing a supportive and affirming role

is a parent's essential task for life.

 For children to be successful in life, they need to have social skills as

well as academic skills. We should teach our children how to listen, to

apologize, to be successful in social interactions with their peers. And

if we help our young children learn polite and caring behavior, they

will continue to use good manners and become more socially aware as

they get older. When children are polite, kind and

honest, they develop character.

The parent who doesn't make courtesy a priority,
 
and who caters and enables, helps a child develop bad manners.
 
Catering to our children is not respect.
 
By saying "yes" to a child's requests for things,

the end result could be detrimental to our children.

 

There?s a reason for that old adage:

?You catch more flies with honey than vinegar?

or some such wording.

Our daily experiences are better

when couched in terms of please and thank you.


May we raise our children to be polite and teach them manners

and help them truly value politeness.

Direct your children onto the right path,

and when they are older, they will not leave it.

Proverbs 22:6 

 

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